Questions about the wife’s.

[Jimfix44]

It seems there are a lot of guys here whose wives don’t fuck anymore. Either they lost interest or something else happened to make them shut it down.

If they hadn’t stopped having sex would you still be bi or bi curious?
How much sexy are you actually getting from her? If any
Do you have a mistress or girlfriend?

I would still be bi. My interest started while she was still sexually active with me although my first time wouldn’t come for a very long time. I might get laid twice a year anymore. She did let me eat her a couple of times lately. First time I’ve tasted her in more than 20 years.
I currently do mot have a gf but have had a few offers lately.

[PFWilly]

I’ve been bisexual since my teen years. My wife learned of my interests a couple of years before our marriage. I’ve not mentioned any of my cocksucking adventures that I’ve had in the last 20 years, but she thoroughly enjoys hearing about my adventures of my earlier years, and she often fantasizes about watching me sucking cock or getting fucked. We have the occasional pillow talk sessions that are enjoyable for both of us.

We don’t have sex as frequently as we once did, but I think that’s fairly normal for a couple in their middle 70’s. LOL

[Nething4luv]

My wife is still interested, just not as frequently as she once was. We have had a few times over the years that she has gotten down to almost no interest in sex whatsoever; these times led to some serious discussion... almost to the point of being the biggest arguments in our 36 years together.

She has medical issues that make penetrative sex painful when at their worst, and uncomfortable the majority of times. Until we got to the point of those serious arguments and I demanded we talk about the underlying issues, she didnt even want to discuss it at all with me. Things have improved, but still at best maybe weekly sex with PIV being maybe once or twice a month and only for a very short time while in the past we would go for a long time and quite frequently... not quite daily due to work and family schedules but 3 to 4 days a week and some of those days more than once in that day.

I think I would still be just as curious about M2M activity even without the decreases in our sex life at home. I think my curiosity started before she started having her medical issues. I often think about being in the situation with someone I have grown to know fairly well and exploring withbone another. I would like to try giving a blowjob, and would probably also try bottoming... again with someone I got to know and trust.

In reality, I probably will never get that far as I am not really all that sociable and would be afraid to ruin the life I have fought so hard to build and keep with my wife.

[PeterWatson]

My bisexuality is not the result of my wife's limited interest in any form of sex. I think it is part of my DNA and surfaces more now because my wife is totally asexual and guys are easier to talk to and befriend. If there were many interested women on this site, I am sure I would seek out both genders, but mostly we have older males and that is fine. We all seem to have a great deal in common, except location and that is the big challenge now.

When I grew up, homosexuality was frowned upon. You know what I mean. Realizing that you liked cock created conflicted feelings inside, but over time you realize that you cannot deny what turns you on. You have to find a way to reconcile and live with it. Even enjoy it if possible.

[Hilton1958]

My wife has fortunately not lost interest in sex, we still have sex usually once a week, or more if on vacation and we both enjoy it. So having ruled out that possibility, I have to conclude that my bisexual interest came about from viewing porn. It was kinda gradual, I'd find myself pausing to have a better, closer look at a nice cock, and found myself (to my surprise) getting turned on by them. I also found myself increasingly enjoying chatting to men, talking regular sex, masturbation and fantasies etc. I have no real life experience, as this interest only developed over the last few years and I am now 65, and to be honest, in my social circles, there is virtually no chance of it happening, but I have recently enjoyed masturbating online while texting with guys. Having said that, if I met someone online who ticked the right boxes and lived nearby (also highly unlikely) I would like to meet up. I'd have to be very cautious though, I wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardise my very good marriage of 34 years.

[BrokenQuill]

Yes, I would still be bi, even if I had a fabulous sex life at home. It was probably the main reason my marital sex life stopped. We were having some pillow talk and discussing fantasies when she asked me if I wanted to try anything that we hadnt done before. I looked into her eyes and before I could answer she said "If its a threesome, then you can forget it". I probably paused for too long and a huge row erupted. I was open and honest with her, and totally ridiculed.

We spent several long months working to resurect our marriage, but since then our sex lives pretty much stopped. The advent of her menopause put the tin lid on things.

I have had several hook-ups with guys since then, and one developed into a sort of affair, but COVID slammed that door shut.

I wouldnt go out chasing women now. Life's complicated enough.

[Jimfix44]

I liked your response to the wife’s thread.
Same here. I told her and she freaked. I didn’t expect that to be here response. It’s taken months to get back to level.

[Jimfix44]

Peter and Quill asked in a PM conversation if I’d talk more about telling her my Bi desires

So I said that I was BiSexual and she freaked. Thinking back I could have tempered that with something like I’m sympathetic to Gays and Lesbians and if the opportunity ever arose for me to try a man I probably would. But I didn’t, just blurted it out jumping off the deep end.

What surprised me was that we had talked about LGBT for a long time. We have many many friends who are gay or lesbian. She has some lesbians she keeps up with all the time so I didn’t think it would be that big of a deal. I mean we’re both liberals and are aligned with many of the issues on the left. (Not all of them so don’t jump my shit too hard here)

Another thing is I was pretty convinced she’s had an affair , at least one, with a guy she worked with. He’s got a huge cock, maybe the biggest around, and she likes that. Although I’m just average. I also guessed that maybe she had a girlfriend or 2.
She denied all of this. Which I still don’t believe that she didn’t do some of it. She does lie to me and it takes a while to get to the truth.

Bottom line after the dust settles is her main concern was that people would find out and all of our friends would think badly of me. (I didn’t say but did wonder how many of our fro ends are in the same boat)

So that’s it. I hope it is readable and understandable. Of course there’s more but those are the starting points. We had a huge fight recently and it was over. I reached out via text and that was the best communication we’ve had for years. I think that worked best because no one interrupted the other and each could say what they wanted. Before then it was lawyer up. Since we’ve fucked several times, I’ve even ate her a few times. We’ll see where it goes.

[PeterWatson]

Thanks Jim for sharing. BrokenQuill, if you want to post your PM to me here, that would be great, but it is not my place to move your PM to this public forum.

What surprises me is how strongly and negatively your wives reacted. Its not like you admitted to molesting children or something. So you are bisexual and you have fantasies. Did either of you tell your wives that you had acted on the fantasies so they may have thought you unfaithful? Did either of you feel that your marriage was falling apart anyway and maybe this was just the last straw for your wife or a way to justify any anger she felt towards you for other reasons?

I fear my wife would humiliate and degrade me as she would make this all about her and how this would make her look and feel. My feelings would be of little concern.

[Jimfix44]

I think most women/wife are self centered and hugely ego. They only matter to themselves.
We always think they are delicate and fragile. They are not. Egotistical and narcissistic is a better description. I’m not bashing it’s just what it is.
It’s why we can gather here and talk about our feelings and needs. Supporting each other.